the sun came out this afternoon.............

The sun came out...........

......with a phone call that said that Mom can have someone come every day from 10---to---2 to do her hair, encourage her to wear lipstick and perfume, read her the newspaper, and in general keep her company.  They will have lunch with her and keep her company while Jack and I do doctor, dentist appointments, and lunch together!   We are looking forward to some time together that we have missed over the last two years.  We hope this works out.   Mother said some positive comments about "Dusty" coming every day Monday through Friday!

Incase of an emergency the agency can send someone for 24 hour care and I can get away.    I would have to pay the difference.......but someone would be with  MOM! 

She is so tired today that I am a bit worried because she doesn't seem to have a way of dealing with fatigue.  The therapist seems to be the cause of her fatigue.......but I think she is running out of steam!  Pray for us!

We lost some feline members of our neighborhood.  It was sad and  and I cried a lot but it seemed a bad thing for Thanksgiving and that weekend.  We have some new orphans but they seems to be doing well even in the very frigid weather.

We lost a member of our community as well this morning. 

I must  send greetings to all from Marigold Country House....and Blessings of the Season!

I need to write letters.........

Those pesky things known as Christmas Cards are awaiting me!   Everyone will need a personal note!

I need to send some "snail mail" letters, too!  Oh woe is me!

It is COLD here and snow is predicted!  Now this is the Oklahoma plains and when it is windy and cold there is nothing to stop the wind but barbed wire fences and that "ain't" much!

The kitties were here for hot chow early this morning, what will I do when mom's freezer is empty!  This morning they had a boneless beef roast that was a million years old but they didn't mind! Dino aged beef is fine!  

 We lost one of our little abandoned babies on Thanksgiving, all the love and cuddling and special feedings just wasn't enough to keep the little thing going.   I cried a lot and then cried a lot over my Mom who seems to be more frail on some days.

I hope we can remember the reason for the Christmas Season this year.......I hate the shopping and just don't have the desire this year.  I love giving the kids the wallpaper for their wallets and they can enjoy  the season the way they desire.  I want quiet this year and maybe one of the girls if they can get away.......never have had both for years and years.

Jack's daughter has her mother with her because of a fall and resulting injury.  It will be awhile before her mother can live alone again.  The daugher is becoming a working caregiver.....and that is difficult as well as frustrating when the patient is in many ways "able" to help but isn't "inclined".  That daugher is an only child, also.  Onlys have a big responsibility.

50 percent chance of snow!  This translates into Peace and warmth INSIDE Marigold Country Home!

 

A rough day......are there any other kind?

Made an appoinment to start the work on Jack's broken tooth.  Next Monday a neighbor will come to clean and be in the house with Mom while we are gone to dentist.

Checked on prescriptions......some are not yet called in and we will hope to get them before the holiday and everyone is gone!

Mom didn't feel good for the second day in a row, and she didn't eat much today.  I just wasn't preparing anything she wanted but the Jello and cocoanut cake was good! LOL

Cleaning all day and nothing to show for it, is depressing!

I am grateful that the sun shines even if I don't!

 I am grateful for the plants that bloom on my porch even if they get little attention!

 I am grateful for care personel that seem to care, and listen when Jack and I need a shoulder to lean on.

I am grateful that we came back, even though these two years have been rough and will be even  worse as time goes on.

I am grateful for this journal, since I have a small network of support.   Blessings on ALL OF YOU for just being out there and responding to entries.

Peace at Marigold Country House!

early morning report.........

Abandoned kitties fed.  All four legged felines filled up.  These  animals are like my car..can fill it up but it doesn't stay full!

It isn't 5 yet but Jack helped me feed the monsters........they tend to want to enter the patio door and he watches to see that they all exit.  One ran over and sat in front of his chair to get special attention!  And guess what she did get just that!

We like our slow starting quiet mornings.  Jack has a piece of toast, juice, and medication.  I have lots of coffee and maybe toast. 

 Perhaps Mom won't get up till later.  Yesterday morning she was up by this time wanting her pancake and coffee.  Since she can't read a clock anymore she  usually gets up when she wakes up.

A neighbor told me last night that she had intended to bring us Thanksgiving dinner.  How nice........but when Mom was here alone no one brought her even a sandwich.  She had withdrawn into herself for several months and was forgotten. 

 We must not forget our elderly friends and neighbors.  They are like the abandoned kittens.  They need another kitten or cat to cozy up to to keep warm and alive.  One little bag of bones we named precious has been bathed by several other cats....that act of love and caring among the felines is what we need to see among humans.

Hydrogen Peroxide.....a wonderful tool in the kitchen and throughout the house to clean and disinfect!  Windows and mirrors, counter tops, stove tops, faucets and sink areas.........so have to get the bottle out and go for it now!

Peace in a clean Marigold Country Home! LOL

 

If one more thing can happen, it will!

Well, Jack broke off a tooth this week.  Found a dentist who would see him today.  Took x-rays.  Said he needed to see a dental surgeon........but would not take the tooth out while he was taking Plavix.  Called heart doctor.........absolutely could not stop  Plavix.......so live with toothache!

Mom didn't feel good today so she didn't get dressed and spent part of the day back in bed and other wise roaming the house looking for a spot to be comfortable.

And what did Sue do?  Ate comfort food.....which I did not need.......hot fudge icecream!

I am grateful for:(1)  A friend who stops by to share her new puppy and her son who stayed to pet the little kittens. (2)  A very reasonable bill at the dentist, we don't have insurance for that. (3) An easy day in the kitchen, not much preparation. (4)  A dishwasher, washer/dryer, and the water was not off today, due to new water lines! (5) and especially games on the computer when I think I can't go any farther!

Peace at Marigold Country Home!  Started winterizing the flower beds!  A freeze is on the weather forcast for this week!

Grateful for..................

I am grateful for:(1) a quiet time with my husband, we don't have to talk, just be! (2) my mom ate a good lunch and I am grateful for that to build her strength.(3) I am grateful for the little country church across the street, where Mother loves to go each Sunday. (4) I am grateful for a daughter who remembers to check on us each day and who is so tuned in to me, to know where I am and when to call. (5) I am grateful for the hug of a friend this morning.

Happy Thanksgiving!

The good times...........

Concentrate on the good things!

A friend came over yesterday and stayed with Mom while Jack and I went shopping at Sam's Club!  A morning out together.

The friend hadn't visited with mom in months and it was a good thing.

The same friend and her husband are harvesting the pecans.  They have taken 5  5gallon buckets of pecans so far from the two trees.  Many have not fallen and it will take a freeze probably for the rest.

I am so grateful that they are picking up the pecans.  Others have asked and in past years they only wanted them if we picked them up first.  So this is really good.  No I didn't want any of this crop.  Mother has a lot of shelled and unshelled pecans in the freezers.

Met a another native........he works at the facility a block away.  He had stopped to check on the pecan pickers! LOL He is their neighbor.  This man was a decendent of slaves and his last name is the name of a large food canning company back east.  His first name is Elvis because he was named by the nurses in the hospital.  '63 was a good year for that name! LOL   In this area, knowing  many people is very important.  In California you seldom knew who lived next door and certainly nothing about them.

I am learning to hang on to the positive things of each day.  A friend and I decided to list the things we were grateful for ...a minimum of 3 each day: (1) the stars we can see.....in the cities and smoggy areas, this isn't possible! (2) Neighbors and friends to wave at, some I don't really know but they wave. (3) The comfort of a purring kitten.

Yes, I am grateful for each day that I have my loved ones with me.  Their health and comfort are my concern constantly.  But we often forget the small things in each day with tweaks our hearts, and brings smiles.

If you are having family for Thanksgiving......hopefully it will be a blessing.  We will just be we three, but the hearts of our girls are with us!  

Blessings on your table.  Those present are blessed to be there and to share the food that loving hands have prepared.  If you are on the road and McDonalds is the fare....then be blessed for that and the cash for gas!

Peace from Marigold Country Home!

 

 

IS THERE ANYTHING SIMPLE IN LIFE?

At 1:30 this morning I was awakened by my mother as she walked in and settled down in our room!

I asked her what was the matter, she said nothing, she was fine!  I told her she had to be  quiet in our room because we were trying to sleep....after several trys I got her to settle down!   This lady was completely dressed, shoes, hose, everything!

I tried to go back to sleep and made very little progress!  Finally just before 4 I got up fed the cat population of this city and fed Mom a pancake!  Jack and I had toast and he had meds and we started the day.  This was bath day so we got it over early and Jack was able to go back to sleep.  I tried again but we had to be at the doctor's office before 8:30 to get our flu shots.

We made it and the nurse came out and gave us the shots in the car.........."drive by shooting" they called it! LOL

I was going to take us all out for the day but Jack said no I needed the rest and Mother was nodding off every few moments.........so we are at home and resting.

The weather is already turning......the temps dropping and perhaps a freeze tonight.