In the hands of destiny...........

Almost three years ago we came to this last frontier.  The first thing was to find Jack a doctor.  We asked around and a couple of people mentioned the local clinic.  They said the doctor was kind and thorough.

This year the doctor has been in the local clinic for three years and was named the Rural Physician of Oklahoma 2008.  Wow! 

 We thought this guy who made home visits and was so good with my 90 year old Mom. was special.  He was thoughtful when dealing with Jack, and adamant about me taking time for myself.  We certainly picked a winner.  Of course there will those who can find something to criticize but that is human nature for some.

Sometimes you win, hands down!  Peace!

THE SANDS OF TIME SHIFT AND CHANGE

It had been over a month since I have put anything into this journal.  Things are changing, some good, some not as we would like them.

Mom has been in a nursing facility now for over three months.  Most of the time she seems happy and content.  She has had some bad days that caused me to very grateful to the staff.   Most days she knows who I am and is glad to see me.  I seldom miss a day going to check on her and rubbing her back, giving lots of hugs and kisses, and other endearments.

Here at the house I am dealing with the aspect that Mom won't be coming back here to live and am trying to make small "baby step" changes.  To be more radical would difficult without some guilt feelings. 

Jack is having more health problems and knowing Mom is taken care of so well makes my work here much easier.  He encourages me to go see about Mom each day.  I sometimes hate to leave him because of some difficult he is having but to not go takes away the help he is trying to give.

Many say they understand the choices that I am having to make and I appreciate their concern and sympathy.  When you miss the man who sat next to Mom at each meal and learn he became ill and passed this weekend; her roommate is missing and she too is gone;   you want to hold on to each moment that we share. 

Mom doesn't talk a great deal and it is difficult for her to make her thoughts understandable but the smile is still there.  I think all the people around her helps keep her from loneliness and boredom.

Peace reigns! 

What does it mean to be homeless?

I have laughingly said many times that Jack and I are homeless.  In reality we are.  This is mother's house.  We live here we make improvements and repairs and pay for them ourselves.  But some things are never open for change.

We have in the past had guests that were sent to bed by my mother.  Some she had openly refused to visit with.  And some she did not want us to invite to the house.  This is not our home.........we did not have many options.

She did not like some of the music Jack played.  She definately had likes and dislikes and perferred the music to television.  And although we paid the  utility bill covering the television she complained that it was on all the time.  This was not our home....sometimes it is uncomfortable to go against the grain and often compromise is not an option.

We painted our room and she said it certainly didn't need paint, we were wasting time and money,etc.  This is not our home and her vision capabilities often didn't make her fully aware of the need for paint. 

We needed to move furniture to help Jack have access to the rest of the house.  She did not like the idea but approved after we went ahead and did it anyway.  Sometimes it was hard to be as stubborn as she was! LOL

We liked certain foods.  She did not like to go out and she perferred other foods.   I found I was sometimes cooking several extra meals a day to make everyone comfortable and happy.   Again this was not our home.

The  biggest issue was privacy.  Although there was a door separating our room from the rest of the house, it seemed rude to close that door.   If we were bathing, I had to always go and tell her we were bathing and we needed the door closed for privacy.  Often at night she would come into our room and wake us or sit  awhile.   I would awake to find her bending over me asking me why wasn't I getting up...hee hee (always in the middle of the night) or she would just start talking and wake both of us.  This in truth was not our home.

My daughter and I have talked about her sharing the house with us and we laughed about all the problems that could occur even though we are all family.   And again, how would she feel, it isn't her home either!

Peace!

It has been awhile since the last post.......and again it has Rained!   We were getting well toasted with tripple diget temperatures...the highest 110.   The Great Plains really is warm this summer!

We have lost lots of kitties this summer, guess the heat and the upper resporitory problems have been the major problems.  Lost 4 just this week and expect there will be more before the weekend. 

I am learning to deal with grief I guess.  Mom is doing well and seems to continue to be comfortable and happy.  Doctor has threatened to come to the house and see the wound on Jack's leg that the therapist have been treating for almost a year.   It is healing but the therapist ask for recertification order and a culture prescription so he asked questions and said if he was not satisfied with the answers he would come to the house.    He didn't say anything about Jack coming to his office..... guess he thought it was too hot!  (smiles)

We had plans to go out today but the rain has stopped us and it is an all day forcast.  Jack does not like to take his power chair out in the rain........it isn't like he is splashing down the street in mudholes or puddles but they told him to not go out in the rain......so we don't!

I have a good book, lots of cleaning of closets and dresser drawers, a estate house to clean out, cabinets to clean and dishes to sort for charity, I can think of a million things to do........so will just rest maybe! LOL

Peace!

RAIN RAIN RAIN RAIN

RAIN RAIN RAIN RAIN.............it had been so long since we had a shower that I walked around in it and did all the things I could think of to stay out in the rain.

The baby kitties and some of the older felines were quite upset because of that wet stuff messing up their hair.......but it only made mine curly!

It isn't much cooler and it is humid.....but who is complaining!  Peace!

Kitties in the park!

Someone asked about the kitties........You would not believe the numbers!  We have had two big fires in the neighborhood and the kitties have relocated to our area.  We still have those who come from blocks around to eat and drink fresh water and lay in the cool grass!

I don't count anymore I just put lots of dry food and fresh water.   The babies get a cold milk coctail hour about 4 in the afternoon! Of course the mothers always join in also.

This is the year of the calicos.   We have several now and have lost several this year.  Some of the kitties have been sick. The vet says it is an upper respiritory infection and they get matted eyes and runny noses and some survive and some do not.  I am always bringing in a little one to wash out their eyes with warm water.... used peroxide for a while but it must have really hurt some so just use warm water.  They hate that bad enough!

This past week all the babies and their mothers disappeared for several days.   The mothers would come in and eat and lay in the shade and appear to look for their babies.   I was sure someone came and picked them up or a preditor have gotten them like the big hawks they sit on the highline wires by our house.

Well Thursday mothers and babies all returned hungry and seemingly all present.  Geesh! I thought I have been rescued from the cats!  Guess they couldn't find shelter, food, and water where they went. 

Jack went out on a yard cruise tonight and he had great fun with the cats.   They are a bit in awe of the motorised chair!   We had two males neutered this spring.   The vet did lasier work and they did wonderful...and these two come in to be fed.  One is a bit shy the other stays in for hours on the cool tile floor or taking over my chair.

We have all sizes, colors, tigers, calicos, beautiful markings, long and short hair, and all have great personalities....JUST NEED HOMES!

Guilt free fun

Jack and I are learning to have fun without the guilt of Mother's care. 

 She is well cared for and seems very happy in the facility where she lives now.   I go almost every day unless Jack needs me more because I am his care facility.

We have been having more "fun" days and trips out of the house.  This is very good for both of us. 

Just this week: We picked out new carpet and scheduled measuring,etc.

Went to three different casinos.  I didn't win but it was great therapy.

We had the car serviced..certainly overdue.

    We are learning.........